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FAIR |
UNFAIR |
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| No
fear of violence or verbal abuse. |
The
threat of abuse is always present. |
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| The
current issue of disagreement is discussed. |
The
current issue gets clouded by bringing up the past problems, blaming
relatives, etc. |
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Honest communication of feelings by using assertiveness techniques. |
Denial of facts and attempts to put partner on the defensive. |
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Speaking one at a time. |
Constant interruptions, ignoring, or refusing to talk. |
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Agreed on time out when tensions rise. |
Tensions escalate to explosion point. |
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Respect. |
Personal insults, name calling. |
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Willingness to say “I’m sorry.” |
Refusal to admit when wrong and tendency to blame others. |
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Both win by growing in understanding in the relationship. |
The
person in control wins over the other. |
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