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OLD: |
I can’t stay away from this
person-he is my family after all! |
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NEW: |
I can stay away from anyone I
want to. I don’t have to spend time with people or be where they are just
because I am related to them. |
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OLD: |
It is best to forgive and forget. |
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NEW: |
I need to heal from the bad
things that have happened to me. I don’t need to forgive anyone I don’t
wish to, and forgetting is impossible. |
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OLD: |
I can’t survive without
them. They are the only family I have. |
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NEW: |
I can do anything I need to
do to take care of myself and support myself. I can even create a new
family for myself. |
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OLD: |
I just want the whole family to be together. |
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NEW: |
Getting the whole family
together may be a very bad idea. I can arrange to spend time with only
those people who treat me well. |
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OLD: |
I must not hurt this
family member’s feelings. |
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NEW: |
I need to take good care
of myself. If that means I have to hurt someone else’s feelings, I may need
to do that. |
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OLD: |
If a family member abuses me,
I just have to put up with it because if I told someone, it might hurt the
feelings of other people in the family and/or those other people might angry
with me. |
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NEW: |
I can tell anyone I want,
including the police, and family members have no right to get angry with me
about this. If they are not supportive of me, I need to stay away from them
and spend time with people who are supportive. |
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