OVERCOMING FEARS ABOUT SEX
One consequence of rape is considerable anxiety about sexual activity. For a young victim, rape may be her first sexual experience, causing her great confusion about human sexuality. For all victims, rape is a violent experience devoid of love and emotional intimacy. Such an experience may produce in the victim a long-term fear of sexual involvement, diminished sexual desire, feelings that she has been rendered “asexual,” or the rape may aggravate sexual difficulties that already existed between partners.
the sexual partner of a victim, a temporary disruption of sexual activity is
common, especially if the rape was extremely violent or involved multiple
rapists. Most victims experience a change in their sexual responsiveness
and also are concerned about the responses of their partner.
you are insensitive, it may make the resumption of sex seem rape-like, reminding
her of the incident. She may have flashbacks of the rape during consensual
sexual relations, though she may be reluctant to reveal this. Likewise,
you may feel insecure about your sexual performance, especially if she seems
unresponsive. In other words you both may experience complex feelings
about sexual impulses following a rape. The following suggestions will
Be patient. Sexual disruption following rape usually is temporary. If problems persist, seek relationship counseling.